The rules and limits are essential for children and family life. The boys are in the phase of distinguishing the right from the wrong, what is right and what is wrong. In this sense, they need clear norms within what is good or bad; although that is later questioned.
Quite the opposite of what is thought, if children have control over the adults with whom they live, perceiving that they can send them, they end up feeling distressed, insecure and unprotected. Children really have the notion that they are small and need to be cared for. If they take control of the situation, who will be the people who will take responsibility for caring for them?
Parents with young children often find it difficult to discipline; Sometimes they have doubts on how to do it.
Disciplinary is different from punishing, is to establish clear rules that must be followed, are references that regulate child behavior. Both the establishment of very strict or excessive norms, and the lack of them, impair the emotional growth of children. Part of the task of educating is knowing how to say "NO". It is important that parents generally agree to respect the limits that were imposed at home. For children it is very confusing when one of the parents is very tolerant, letting the other be the one who imposes the discipline “being the bad one”. The disagreement between the parents tends to complicate and disrespect the limits, paying attention only to the weakest to get away with it.
The modern concept of disciplining is a teaching-learning process in which parents and children function as teachers and disciples. Parents need to raise awareness of their role in a climate of emotional communication.
The qualities of a good emotional “preparer” are love, affection, patience, optimism and perseverance. It should be flexible, give explanations, repeat explanations and mainly listen.
Being parents is being present at important times, but also setting limits. Parents when necessary should repress negative actions, but not the desires and emotions they should try to understand.
Children educated with discipline develop self-discipline over time, as they learn to analyze things. They begin to develop awareness, identifying by themselves the wrong acts.
