Has it happened to you? Do you do it that way too? Many couples, having a child, begin to modify the discourse at home to change from a dialogue between father and mother to one in which the baby is also included, although he does not speak yet. Dad loses his name to always be "dad" and mom loses his to always be "mom", and so when you talk to the baby you talk about mom like you do when you talk to her, to simplify everything.
The fact is that on more than one occasion I have heard and read people explain that he doesn't like this phenomenon, this change, that they see a nonsense or excessive cursilería, and that is why I wanted to talk about it today, because I think that many people do it and I would like you to explain a little what you think about it.
I don't usually fall for it, but yesterday I fell
In my house we have been doing it for 8 years, which is the time that has passed since my son Jon, the oldest, was born. It was not something premeditated. In fact, we have rarely talked about it and when we have done it it has been more anecdotally than as reflection. Come on, the last time we talked about it was because calling her from a room in the house I said "Miriam!" and not "Mom!" Calling him by name surprised him so much that he told me.
Well, yesterday I was surprised when, alone, with the children already asleep, he said "Dad." I guess when there are no child ears listening, unconsciously, we change and call each other by name, so when he told me he missed me.
I am not his father
And, looking at it, it is a mistake. Neither she is my mother nor I am her father, so I can understand people who criticize some parents to do this, because they must think this, that we call ourselves dad and mom but we are not really. However, looking at it from a family point of view, I am the father of the house, the father of the family, and she is the mother of the house, of the family, so seen this way it is not so serious that, when we are In family, let's call each other that way.
Come on, the last thing I am looking for is to create a debate about whether it is normal or not, or if it is right or wrong, it is simply an affectionate way of calling each other, but making it easy for children.
So, again, I urge you to give us your opinion about it: Does your partner no longer call you by your name, but does he call you "mom" or "dad"?
